No, You’re Not “Too Young” to Worry About Breast Cancer

When my husband found a lump in my breast during an intimate moment, I was aloof and unbothered. I was breastfeeding and pumping milk for our infant son, and I assumed the changes in my anatomy were normal. I’d never done a breast self-exam before, and at 31 years old, I thought breast cancer was something I didn’t need to worry about- especially since I had no family history of it at the time. 

Oops.

My lack of urgency could have been a fatal mistake. I credit my husband for encouraging me to get it checked out, despite my indifference. When the diagnosis came back—breast cancer—it was shocking and confusing. I had no family history, no major risk factors, and had lived a healthy lifestyle. There was no “good reason” for why this happened to me, and that lack of clarity ignited a painful anger in me.

“Why me?” became a constant refrain.

Over time, though, I realized I might never find a satisfying answer. That frustration slowly transformed into something more productive: a purpose to share my story and empower others. Because here’s the truth: cancer does not discriminate, and the idea that you’re “too young” to worry about it is a dangerous myth.

A Wake-Up Call for All Women

If there’s one thing I’ve learned through this journey, it’s that no one can take better care of you than you. Monthly breast self-exams aren’t just something “older women” should do—they are a vital act of self-care for everyone, regardless of age. Knowing your normal and monitoring any changes is a simple, life-saving practice.

It’s easy to push our needs to the back burner. As moms, students, professionals, or caregivers, we often prioritize everything and everyone else above our own well-being. But tending to your health is something you’ll never regret. Consider it an extension of your daily routine: brushing your teeth, moisturizing your skin, and checking in on your body’s health.

The Importance of Advocacy

My experience also taught me the critical importance of self-advocacy. When I learned about cold capping—a scalp cooling technology that can help preserve hair during chemotherapy—I was hesitant to bring it up to my medical team. I was new to advocating for myself and worried they might dismiss the idea.

At first, they were cautious, not wanting to set unrealistic expectations. But I knew it was important for me to explore this option, even if the results weren’t guaranteed. I came to appointments prepared, with questions written down, and my husband by my side for support. I acknowledged the skepticism of my doctors, but shared how meaningful it was for me to have the chance to preserve my hair.

That conversation changed everything. By showing I was informed, confident, and willing to take responsibility for the outcome, I was able to get my medical team on board. Cold capping helped me retain enough of my hair that, to my young son, I never looked “sick.” It was a crucial part of preserving my sense of normalcy, privacy, and self-identity throughout treatment.

A Message for You

If I could go back in time, I’d tell my younger self to start doing monthly self-exams and to get into the habit of knowing my normal. This simple practice should be taught to everyone, not as a fear-driven task, but as a celebration of your commitment to your health.

My story is a reminder that even when you do everything “right,” life can still throw curveballs. But being proactive about your health can make all the difference. If you feel something is wrong, trust your instincts. And if your concerns are dismissed, keep advocating. Find a doctor who listens, and don’t stop until you get the care you deserve.

You are never too young—or too busy—to prioritize your well-being. Your body is worth the time, the effort, and the love it takes to care for it. No matter where you are in life, remember: you’ve got options, and you’ve got people in your corner.

With love,

Martha

Martha Kyler is the creator of Pink Ribbon Playbook, a digital resource dedicated to helping individuals preserve their hair during chemotherapy through scalp cooling technology. Based in Colorado, Martha is passionate about providing practical tools and heartfelt support to those rebuilding their lives after a breast cancer diagnosis. Explore her resources at PinkRibbonPlaybook.com or connect with her on Instagram @pinkribbonplaybook for inspiration, community, and expert tips.